I was talking to a friend about how darn lucky mommies are in Singapore because getting a yaya(nanny) is possible and affordable. An impossibility in countries like here in the US of A, Australia or Japan, well it is possible but it can cost and arm and a leg.
Lucky bitches but then it got me thinking, is it a good or a bad thing? I may not have the luxury of having household help here but I feel like we get to be more of a family unit, emotionally closer to my kids and husbandry. We have no other choice but to fend for ourselves. See here, I grew up with a nanny but sadly, I don't remember being read books before sleeping, going for long walks and having a parent playmate. I remember reading books by myself, playing outside with other kids and basically doing things by myself. My parents and I we were not close in fact I only felt some connection between the two of us after I got married and moved out of the house. We are not the family to kiss and hug yikes it would be so darn right uncomfortable. The 3 of us sibling consider our nanny (tia vicing) our second mom and I hate to say this, since she took care of us from getting ready to school, waking us up, preparing everything for us, she was more the mom to me that my mom was. I could talk more to her and be more comfy with her. Now, I am happy to say though that my Mom and I are now close due to distance separating us and that is a good thing.
So now here is my thought, is having a nanny really better? I don't want to lose the connection that my kids and I have, I am their go to to everything and it can be a thankless job but it does feel darn good.
..to be continued (have to pick up the kid from summer camp)
o mas sayun makakuha ug yaya didto clara, nya ok ra ka nga yaya ra kuyug permi sa imong anak sa four walls sa inyong unit everday? :P
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